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Old 06-29-2001, 02:42 AM
RUSSEL213 RUSSEL213 is offline
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my fathers passing

i wanted to take a minute and let the members here know that we had my fathers funeral today. he passed on the 24th of june 2001 at 0652 hours.

my father spent most of his life working in the oilfieds, in the early 90's we became a security officer. he won to awards from his company for saving the lives of two men on two different occasions. he had also went to help at the Oklahoma City bombing, my father worked in law enforcment as a police officer for a short time when we found out that he had cancer. after therepy he went back to work as a sec officer again in a lower risk area. 2 years later his cancer returned, he defeated it, but was unable to work after that. one month ago we learned that he had brian cancer. he passed on the 24th of june as i said.

what i wanted the people here to know, is that he was more proud of his time as a cop, and security officer than any other job in his life. those of in these jobs will understand this.

he had a lot of friends, and a lot of family, and on friday the 22nd as he was in the hospital he told me how proud he was of me and my brother for becoming police officers.

we buried him on th 28th,(still today to me, no sleep). he was buried with his collar brass, an award pin, and a .45 black talon round. we put the American Flag on his casket and bid this husband father and officer farewell. my department provided the escort, and to see my friends and fellow officers with us made me very proud to be a police officer.

i am proud of him, as a father, and as a police officer, and as a security officer.

i just thought you might like to know that we buried my hero today...

russel the cop

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Old 06-29-2001, 05:39 AM
Ken Neal Ken Neal is offline
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I am truly sorry for your loss. My most heartfelt sympathy to you and yours.
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Old 06-29-2001, 09:13 AM
shane45-1911 shane45-1911 is offline
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A very nice tribute to your father. Thank you for letting us help share your sorrow.

Best regards always,
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Old 06-29-2001, 10:00 AM
Citizen_Gilmore Citizen_Gilmore is offline
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Im sorry to hear that, it was great he had an oportunity to tell you how proud he was of you.. My dad died in OCT. There isn`t anything anyone can say to help much, but he was obviously a good man, so you keep your chin up.. -Gilmore

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Old 06-30-2001, 12:06 AM
JAFO216 JAFO216 is offline
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Hey Man , sorry for your loss . This is the most heart wrenching thing other than losing a spouse or child . I lost my Grandpa two years ago to a stroke . He was my idol , my strong person to lean on and never gave bad advice or lied to anyone ever . He was a WW2 vet from the Navy and a lifelong Farmer to the end . He was proud of me for being a Deputy Sheriff more than anything else in the world he said . During his funeral the honor gaurd did the firing of the guns during taps it tore me up then they folded his flag and gave it to me although he has three sons , it was written down that I was the one that had honored him the most and I was to have his flag . I really lost it then . That flag and what it meant to me and him who have been shot at and protected what we knew we had to , we both understood that flags meaning . I still miss him worse than ever and I cant stop remembering our hunts in the woods and just being together . Time will ease the pain man but it will never completely go away . During times of the year that you shared like me in hunting season you will feel your heart hurting . I wish you the best in the future and hold dear his memory .
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Old 06-30-2001, 12:42 AM
Bronco Bronco is offline
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Russel...Thanks for the glimpse of a very good man.

You and yours will be in my prayers.

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Old 06-30-2001, 09:46 AM
Patrickl Patrickl is offline
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I am really sorry about the loss of your father. I lost mine to cancer also. Watching the battle was the killer for me. I lost my mother two years ago at 90 and even though I was prepared and expecting it, the loss still leaves a big void in my life.

Time will heal you but time it will take. There is no quick remedy and there is no avoiding it. I will give you a bit of advice. The more it hurts, the more you loved him. If it didn't hurt then you never cared. Take great comfort in the fact that the parting does hurt and that your fathers legacy lives on in you.

Your fathers life was well spent son.
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Old 06-30-2001, 03:47 PM
Shooter973 Shooter973 is offline
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Sorry for your huge lose, sounds like he was a great man and father.
Having lost my own Father about 24 yrs. ago I know the empty feeling you have in your heart now. Your life has changed forever now and you will have to go on, but you will always have the great memories of him and the stories about him will give your children a sense of him.
I still think about my Father every day and try to live my life the way he would want me to. A good Father is a Hero to his sons.
Thanks for letting me share my feelings with you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Shooter973
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Old 06-30-2001, 04:46 PM
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Roger Shambaugh Roger Shambaugh is offline
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I know you're going through a rough time right now. I lost my father to cancer when I was almost sixteen, thirty years ago this past January, and my mother passed away last October.

Patrick's right, the more it hurts, the more you loved him. Time will ease the pain, but not the memories. Those are to be kept, and cherished.

Rely on your family and your friends for their support; they'll need your support, as well. Please let us know if we can help you in any way.

Roger Shambaugh
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Old 07-01-2001, 12:31 AM
RUSSEL213 RUSSEL213 is offline
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guys, i want to take this time to thank you, all of you haqve been very nice, and it just makes coming to this board that much better.

my family has been doing well, my mother is surrounded by family love. seeing my father go through cancer really hurt me, but i tried to be there as much as i could. i live just across the pasture from my parents, so it was and is easy to stay in touch.

again thank you all, i have a great respect for a man that is able to express himself the way you have to me.

russel the cop

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Old 07-05-2001, 08:45 PM
tomstark tomstark is offline
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Sorry to hear of your father's passing. He sounds like a great guy. Remember that Jesus has prepared a place for us in heaven, I am sure that your father is enjoying his place there now. My very best wishes to you and your family in this time.
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Old 07-05-2001, 10:14 PM
dream45 dream45 is offline
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Sorry to hear about your father's passing. I lost my father March 27th, just after the birth of our first daughter.

The two events taught me the definition of the "circle of life". Each day must be cherished and lived to the fullest.

You have entered a fraternal club of sorts. The initiation fee is not worth membership, but you will find yourself in good company.

Strong arms around you and your family.

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Old 07-08-2001, 10:05 PM
Highspeed Highspeed is offline
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I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I, too, lost my mother to cancer on June 16. It is difficult for me but even more difficult for my father, her husband of 36 years. Their anniversary was four days before, on the 12th. She was only 56 years old.

But our loss is their gain, as they rest in peace now, in a better place.

Heartfelt condolensces to you and yours.
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Old 08-05-2001, 10:42 PM
Edward429451 Edward429451 is offline
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Russell213, from reading some of your posts in other threads, I can tell that you're father raised a man of great integrity and intelligence. No wonder he was so proud of you. I lost my mother to cancer in 85, so I know how it feels. God bless you, your family, and father. I'll pray for you all.
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Old 08-05-2001, 11:09 PM
gumshoe4 gumshoe4 is offline
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Another MAN who stood tall and taught his son to do the same. Bless them all.

I lost my Dad a year ago. He wasn't a cop-he did a lot of things in his life, including escaping from the USSR as an infant with his mother and father. He's buried in Seaside, near Monterey, California

I lost my father-in-law three years ago. He escaped from Guam when the Japanese took it over at the beginning of WW II. He joined the Navy to fight. He had two ships shot out from under him in the Pacific war. He retired from the Navy as a Chief Petty Officer. We knew NONE of this until we were arranging to have him buried at sea. When we got his DD214, we found out that he had been wounded in action and had a number of awards for bravery. He never told us a word, except one time. I think it hurt him to talk about losing his friends.

They're real men, folks, just like the poster's Dad, and we're losing them quickly. From them all, I learned to STAND TALL, even when it's tough.

Bless you and your Dad.
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Old 08-06-2001, 12:21 AM
RUSSEL213 RUSSEL213 is offline
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thank you both very much, i was surprised to see that someone had posted lately. i thank you both for the kind words.

its still very new to me, i picked up my phone the other day at work to call and check on him, i realized what i had done, and just stopped sat for a minute. i miss him very much, and i am glad that he did have the chance to tell me how proud he was of me for becoming a police officer. i will continue to make him proud by helping people, and taking the extra step to be nice to someone, even someone you know is up to no good, thats what he did. he was fearless, but he had a big heart for anyone who needed help. thats what being a cop is about, and its what being a man is about. he tought me that, and i am teaching my children.

thanks again

russel the cop
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Old 08-10-2001, 06:19 AM
lawdog1834 lawdog1834 is offline
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You father was a true hero in every sense of the word. I salute him as a fellow officer and a fine human being. I recently attended the funeral of a friends father. At the church the rev said "He was a good man." So was you Dad, remmber the good times you spent together
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